Is Avoiding Other People’s Suffering Good for Your Mental Health?

An international study finds that people who turn away from compassion have felt more depressed and anxious during the COVID-19 pandemic.

As COVID-19 ricocheted around the globe, millions of us sought shelter in retreat. Not only were we quarantining at home, we were putting up internal walls against the suffering we saw in the world. For more than a year, it’s been easy to justify an inward focus rather than an outward one.

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This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Based at the University of California, Berkeley, the GGSC is unique in its commitment to both science and practice: Not only do we sponsor groundbreaking scientific research into social and emotional well-being, we help people apply this research to their personal and professional lives. Since 2001, we have been at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life. And we have been without peer in our award-winning efforts to translate and disseminate this science to the public.

Building a Strong, Healthy, Remote Business

More and more businesses are making the switch to running remotely, either partially or completely, or considering keeping remote business structures in place after being forced to innovate. For some, this can be an exciting prospect, while others may find it stressful to make this kind of adjustment. Working remotely can save many companies money on a variety of costs.

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Paisley Hansen is a freelance writer in both physical and mental health. When she isn’t writing she can usually be found reading a good book or hitting the gym.

The Ways Music Can Affect Your Life

It is a fact that music affects your brain. Your body can respond to music without you even noticing and can turn a bad day into a good one. There are many benefits to listening to different types of music and even ways it can help you learn more about yourself. Read on for five ways that music plays an important role in your life. 

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Paisley Hansen is a freelance writer in both physical and mental health. When she isn’t writing she can usually be found reading a good book or hitting the gym.

It's Time for Brave Conversations

If ever there was a time for brave conversations, it is now. With all that’s happening in this country and the world, we can’t afford to shirk our responsibility for having brave conversations. At the same time, brave conversations take courage. We don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Nobody likes to be the bearer of bad news. We don’t always know what we need to say. And frankly, they didn’t teach us how to have brave conversations in school. Luckily, the basics of brave conversations are all learnable skills.

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Johanna Lyman (she/her or they/them) is the Principal Consultant and Practice Leader for Culture and Inclusion at Kadabra. She is a dynamic, energetic Leadership and Culture coach and consultant with nearly 30 years of experience of leadership development and culture change.

She is adept at combining coaching, training, and facilitation to help clients build sustainably profitable businesses while creating deep meaning in their work. She quickly establishes rapport and creates a container of psychological safety, belonging, and deep trust with her clients and their teams. She believes that inclusion and diversity should be seen as the natural outcomes of building great cultures.

Johanna is wife to the best husband on the planet, mother to an adult daughter, and dog-mom to Petey the Amazing Tripod.

The Best Way to Meet Unexpected Changes

“There is no normal. There’s only change and resistance to it and then more change.” ~Meryl Streep

CHANGE IS HERE TO STAY

Once we accept that change is a constant in our lives, it becomes easier to surf along the surface of life. 

We get to see that riding along is safer and smarter than fighting since we can only at best influence the outcome of events—never fully control them. 

CONTROL YOURSELF

The only thing we can control is ourselves. Or in the first person, the only thing I can control is myself.

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Andrew Mellen is an organizational expert, public speaker, and the #1 best-selling author of Unstuff Your Life!

Andrew has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide to declutter and simplify their lives while regaining time for the things that matter.

A sought-after authority on organizing and productivity, Andrew's addressed audiences from The Great British Business Show to TEDx. 

Corporate clients include American Express, Genentech, NetApp, Time, Inc., and the US Depts. of Education and Homeland Security.

The media has dubbed Andrew “The Most Organized Man in America.” He writes a featured column called “Ask The Organizer” in Real Simple. In addition, he has written for and/or appeared in: The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, Oprah Magazine, America Now, The Lisa Oz Show, The Nate Berkus Show, Oprah & Friends, Martha Stewart Living Today, ABC, NBC, CBS, CW11, HGTV, DIY Network, LiveWell Network, KnowMoreTV, Better Homes & Gardens, Ladies' Home Journal, Woman's Day, Family Circle, USA Today, GQ, InStyle, All You, Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, Healthy UK, American Way, numerous trade and travel publications, and NPR.

He leads workshops and speaks internationally while maintaining a private practice working with clients ranging from Fortune 100 companies, trade associations, and non-profits to CEOs, award-winning filmmakers, and authors, as well as overwhelmed parents everywhere. 

In 2013, Andrew founded Unstuff U®, the world's first completely virtual personal organization training center, offering classes, workshops, and other online resources for businesses and individuals. 

Andrew is a member of the Experts Collective and serves on the faculty of the New York Open Center in New York City. He speaks frequently on the intersection of spirituality and organization at places including Omega Institute, San Francisco Zen Center, Tassajara, All Saints Church, JCC Manhattan, and the Center for Spiritual Enlightenment, among others.

Previously, Andrew was an award-winning playwright, actor, producer, and director and the former Artistic Director of Alice B. Theater (Seattle), DC Arts Center (Washington, DC), and Shuttle Theater Company (New York). He is a contributing author to Yes Is the Answer: (And Other Prog-Rock Tales).

Andrew lives by his motto: More Love, Less Stuff!® 

Find him on the web at andrewmellen.com.

Clear Vision

"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.

Who looks outside, dreams.

Who looks inside, awakens."  ~ Carl Jung

“ The willingness to “deal” with the inner transmutation process, the willingness to deal with one’s inauthenticities and one’s own inner egoic status quo … is the true work, and once undertaken, the Infinite Intelligence inherent [with]in … unfolds us. …

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Dr. Laura Basha is an organizational psychologist, writer, and artist. 

She is the Founder and Creator of WhiteBird Rising, a resource and guide for the transformational lifestyle. For over 35 years she worked with thousands of international clientele, using a principle-based paradigm of well-being, catalyzing an awakening in people to their authentic self-expression, creativity, and power. Her latest book, All Is Chosen, a beautiful handmade art piece, is a compilation of her life’s work, and can be viewed along with her other writings, videos, and artwork, at www.whitebirdrising.com

Creating A New Pattern: How Sewing Can Help Kids To Flourish

A recent report has found that nearly 1 in 7 American children has a mental health condition, and 50% are going untreated. 

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Jennifer Madsen is an experienced freelance writer with a background in health and wellness. When not working she loves to travel and especially enjoys lakeside and seaside locations.

 

Creating Community

The power of community to create health is far greater than any physician, clinic, or hospital. ~Mark Hyman

Over the five years I lived with my Mom’s cancer diagnosis, I became very skilled at “creating community.”  i.e., reaching out to people to tell the truth about how I was feeling and asking for support. It wasn’t easy at first, but it got easier and easier as time went on.

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Jen Coken is an author, life coach, and comedian who wants to live in a world where you’re free to be yourself and achieve your soul’s purpose—a vision that has driven her work as a Coach, Speaker, Author, Comedian for more than 20 years.

Drawing on three decades of experience as a non-profit leader and grassroots organizer, Jen helps CEOs and entrepreneurs overcome their self-made limitations and do their heart’s work.

But Jen’s impact doesn’t end there: She spent six years on the Denver stand-up comedy circuit and brings a sense of humor to every topic she addresses, including the experience of coping with her mother's diagnosis and death from ovarian cancer.

Jen’s book, "When I Die, Take My Panties: Turning Your Darkest Moments into Your Greatest Gifts" chronicles that experience and shares Jen’s core message that everything that comes our way is meant to teach us about ourselves.

When she’s not crafting bestselling books or speaking to audiences around the country, you can find Jen eating Nutella by the spoonful in the nearest grocery aisle. www.jencoken.com

Feeling and Seeing Struggle, Witnessing Hope and Resilience

Having traveled throughout Latin America, people everywhere seem to embody a warm tenderness and kind spirit that many times is rare to experience in other major cities of the west. From Mexico to Brazil, you can feel and see in the eyes of most the daily struggle and sacrifice of surviving with limited resources and services. Despite entrenched and generational social, economic, and political challenges, the hope and resilience of the continent are more evident today than ever in the laughter and optimism of those with least.  

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Henry Cross grew up in sunny Miami, Florida. Upon graduating high school, he moved to the politicized Washington, D.C. and double majored in History and Politics at the Catholic University. He served as a social studies teacher in Prince George’s County Public School in 2008-2009. In the fall of 2009, he moved to New York City to continue and grow his work in education and service.

He joined Hosh Yoga in 2011 as a teacher and Program Director. And since 2013, he founded and expanded programming for the organization with Hosh Kids and Hosh Seniors. Henry's entrepreneurial spirit helped developed the organizational, program, and financial capacity of the nonprofit to deliver self-sustaining and self-supporting health and wellness services to over 3,000 children, adults, and seniors every month in a cost-effective and fairly-priced way. And from 2014 to 2016, he participated in a philanthropic role by expanding the programming, policy, and public advocacy efforts of the Sonima Foundation as Community Relations Director.

His work has been featured by the Huffington PostElephant JournalBlog Talk RadioThe NYC Social Innovation FestivalSocial Venture Institute, and multiple Brooklyn and Queens newspapers. He is an appointed New York City official of Community Board 5 in Queens, serves on a Department of Youth and Community Development Neighborhood Advisory Board, and on the board of directors of the Ridgewood Property Owners and Civic Association. And in 2015, Henry was selected as an etsy.org business fellow and awarded Top 40 Under 40 Nonprofit Rising Star. He finds joy in his community work service everyday and loves ballroom dancing!

From the Sword of Discernment to the Famine of Time

Our time on Earth is limited.

It slips away, what a shame!

There is so much to celebrate. Wish it didn't have to end this way! But with enough alignment and centering in our personal development we can create a life by design with all the things and people that matter and feel most relevant to us. This is why the sword of personal discernment is key. Face it, no one wants to waste time on things and people that won't mean a thing as life slips away.

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Henry Cross's picture

Henry Cross grew up in sunny Miami, Florida. Upon graduating high school, he moved to the politicized Washington, D.C. and double majored in History and Politics at the Catholic University. He served as a social studies teacher in Prince George’s County Public School in 2008-2009. In the fall of 2009, he moved to New York City to continue and grow his work in education and service.

He joined Hosh Yoga in 2011 as a teacher and Program Director. And since 2013, he founded and expanded programming for the organization with Hosh Kids and Hosh Seniors. Henry's entrepreneurial spirit helped developed the organizational, program, and financial capacity of the nonprofit to deliver self-sustaining and self-supporting health and wellness services to over 3,000 children, adults, and seniors every month in a cost-effective and fairly-priced way. And from 2014 to 2016, he participated in a philanthropic role by expanding the programming, policy, and public advocacy efforts of the Sonima Foundation as Community Relations Director.

His work has been featured by the Huffington PostElephant JournalBlog Talk RadioThe NYC Social Innovation FestivalSocial Venture Institute, and multiple Brooklyn and Queens newspapers. He is an appointed New York City official of Community Board 5 in Queens, serves on a Department of Youth and Community Development Neighborhood Advisory Board, and on the board of directors of the Ridgewood Property Owners and Civic Association. And in 2015, Henry was selected as an etsy.org business fellow and awarded Top 40 Under 40 Nonprofit Rising Star. He finds joy in his community work service everyday and loves ballroom dancing!

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Sunset silhouette of a person alone at the edge of a lake.
10/20/2021
An international study finds that people who turn away from compassion have felt more depressed and anxious during the COVID-19 pandemic. As COVID-19 ricocheted around the globe, millions of us... read more
Woman sitting at desk video chatting with a man on computer screen
10/11/2021
More and more businesses are making the switch to running remotely, either partially or completely, or considering keeping remote business structures in place after being forced to innovate. For some... read more
Woman with earbuds listening to music while standing in front of grafitti wall
09/10/2021
It is a fact that music affects your brain. Your body can respond to music without you even noticing and can turn a bad day into a good one. There are many benefits to listening to different types of... read more
Two men sitting on railroad tracks talking
10/20/2020
If ever there was a time for brave conversations, it is now. With all that’s happening in this country and the world, we can’t afford to shirk our responsibility for having brave conversations. At... read more
PLAN A binder in trash with PLAN B binder in foreground
03/17/2020
“There is no normal. There’s only change and resistance to it and then more change.” ~Meryl Streep CHANGE IS HERE TO STAY Once we accept that change is a constant in our lives, it becomes... read more
detail from painting by Laura Basha showing woman and plant tendrils
01/02/2020
"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens."  ~ Carl Jung “ The willingness to “deal” with the inner... read more
Close up of red button with needle and thread
04/05/2019
A recent report has found that nearly 1 in 7 American children has a mental health condition, and 50% are going untreated.  As the current system tries to meet the demands placed... read more
A woman hiking in mountains reaches back to help another
04/01/2019
The power of community to create health is far greater than any physician, clinic, or hospital. ~Mark Hyman Over the five years I lived with my Mom’s cancer diagnosis, I became very skilled at... read more
Golden dusk photo of fisherman on river tossing out nets
10/30/2018
Having traveled throughout Latin America, people everywhere seem to embody a warm tenderness and kind spirit that many times is rare to experience in other major cities of the west. From Mexico to... read more

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Sunset silhouette of a person alone at the edge of a lake.
10/20/2021
An international study finds that people who turn away from compassion have felt more depressed and anxious during the COVID-19 pandemic. As COVID-19 ricocheted around the globe, millions of us... read more
Woman sitting at desk video chatting with a man on computer screen
10/11/2021
More and more businesses are making the switch to running remotely, either partially or completely, or considering keeping remote business structures in place after being forced to innovate. For some... read more
Woman with earbuds listening to music while standing in front of grafitti wall
09/10/2021
It is a fact that music affects your brain. Your body can respond to music without you even noticing and can turn a bad day into a good one. There are many benefits to listening to different types of... read more
Two men sitting on railroad tracks talking
10/20/2020
If ever there was a time for brave conversations, it is now. With all that’s happening in this country and the world, we can’t afford to shirk our responsibility for having brave conversations. At... read more
PLAN A binder in trash with PLAN B binder in foreground
03/17/2020
“There is no normal. There’s only change and resistance to it and then more change.” ~Meryl Streep CHANGE IS HERE TO STAY Once we accept that change is a constant in our lives, it becomes... read more
detail from painting by Laura Basha showing woman and plant tendrils
01/02/2020
"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens."  ~ Carl Jung “ The willingness to “deal” with the inner... read more
Close up of red button with needle and thread
04/05/2019
A recent report has found that nearly 1 in 7 American children has a mental health condition, and 50% are going untreated.  As the current system tries to meet the demands placed... read more
A woman hiking in mountains reaches back to help another
04/01/2019
The power of community to create health is far greater than any physician, clinic, or hospital. ~Mark Hyman Over the five years I lived with my Mom’s cancer diagnosis, I became very skilled at... read more
Golden dusk photo of fisherman on river tossing out nets
10/30/2018
Having traveled throughout Latin America, people everywhere seem to embody a warm tenderness and kind spirit that many times is rare to experience in other major cities of the west. From Mexico to... read more

Pages