Stacks of cardboard moving boxes.

There’s no shame in asking for help.

There’s no shame in accepting help.

These two “facts” have saved me hours of suffering and offered me the chance to feel love and give love.

I’m having two friends come over today to help me pack.

I’m ambivalent about packing, which doesn’t mean I don’t know I need to pack or that I think I can avoid packing.

But I don’t want to examine every thing I own as I decide what will make it into a box and what will leave.

I don’t want to listen to myself tell the same stories I hear from other people every day about why something that doesn’t really matter might matter… someday. Or could matter in the right light.

It’s not rational, I know.

I am moving.

I have sold my apartment.

In two weeks I’ll be sitting at a closing table signing papers and accepting a check from my buyers.

I have to move.

And even in the face of these facts, I can pace around the apartment like a caged animal, searching for a way out rather than through.

That’s why friends are coming over to babysit me.

They will help put things in boxes, no doubt.

But the biggest thing they can do for me is hold me accountable and keep me on the path.

I can’t procrastinate with them here.

So today, I’ll pack a few more boxes and step a little bit closer to the end of a chapter.

Fortunately, it appears that the book has more than a few pages left in it so, just for today, I’ll keep walking.

What do you do when you need help staying accountable?

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Andrew Mellen is an organizational expert, public speaker, and the #1 best-selling author of Unstuff Your Life!

Andrew has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide to declutter and simplify their lives while regaining time for the things that matter.

A sought-after authority on organizing and productivity, Andrew's addressed audiences from The Great British Business Show to TEDx. 

Corporate clients include American Express, Genentech, NetApp, Time, Inc., and the US Depts. of Education and Homeland Security.

The media has dubbed Andrew “The Most Organized Man in America.” He writes a featured column called “Ask The Organizer” in Real Simple. In addition, he has written for and/or appeared in: The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, Oprah Magazine, America Now, The Lisa Oz Show, The Nate Berkus Show, Oprah & Friends, Martha Stewart Living Today, ABC, NBC, CBS, CW11, HGTV, DIY Network, LiveWell Network, KnowMoreTV, Better Homes & Gardens, Ladies' Home Journal, Woman's Day, Family Circle, USA Today, GQ, InStyle, All You, Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, Healthy UK, American Way, numerous trade and travel publications, and NPR.

He leads workshops and speaks internationally while maintaining a private practice working with clients ranging from Fortune 100 companies, trade associations, and non-profits to CEOs, award-winning filmmakers, and authors, as well as overwhelmed parents everywhere. 

In 2013, Andrew founded Unstuff U®, the world's first completely virtual personal organization training center, offering classes, workshops, and other online resources for businesses and individuals. 

Andrew is a member of the Experts Collective and serves on the faculty of the New York Open Center in New York City. He speaks frequently on the intersection of spirituality and organization at places including Omega Institute, San Francisco Zen Center, Tassajara, All Saints Church, JCC Manhattan, and the Center for Spiritual Enlightenment, among others.

Previously, Andrew was an award-winning playwright, actor, producer, and director and the former Artistic Director of Alice B. Theater (Seattle), DC Arts Center (Washington, DC), and Shuttle Theater Company (New York). He is a contributing author to Yes Is the Answer: (And Other Prog-Rock Tales).

Andrew lives by his motto: More Love, Less Stuff!® 

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