Looking My Enemy In the Eye

She is loud and will be heard. She is so abusive, yet I listen and hang on her every word. She reminds me of my insecurities. She tells me I’m unloved, unacceptable, lazy, worthless. She shames and guilts me. When I see a glimpse of happiness, she is there to remind me that it is not for me. She beats me into submission. She makes me want to hide. She has a hold on me like no other. She makes me feel like I want to curl up and die. Surely, she only wants to destroy me. 

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Maureen is a seeker in this crazy journey called Life! She is a lifetime learner and enjoys the personal growth and transformations it brings. Her love of learning about herself has evolved into a passion for helping others on their journey. Discover Maureen's healing and destiny explorations at YourSoulsDestiny.com

Diagnosis Friend or Foe?

Some labels are useful.

It’s good to know what the bottler considers a serving when buying juice.

A label that offers instructions is very helpful, particularly when trying to repair a flat tire.

But labels for people in the form of a diagnosis may be of little use or detrimental, so perhaps we should move slowly and deliberately when considering one that’s been applied to us.

Do we trust the source?

Were we already frightened when we went looking for outside information?

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Andrew Mellen is an organizational expert, public speaker, and the #1 best-selling author of Unstuff Your Life!

Andrew has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide to declutter and simplify their lives while regaining time for the things that matter.

A sought-after authority on organizing and productivity, Andrew's addressed audiences from The Great British Business Show to TEDx. 

Corporate clients include American Express, Genentech, NetApp, Time, Inc., and the US Depts. of Education and Homeland Security.

The media has dubbed Andrew “The Most Organized Man in America.” He writes a featured column called “Ask The Organizer” in Real Simple. In addition, he has written for and/or appeared in: The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, Oprah Magazine, America Now, The Lisa Oz Show, The Nate Berkus Show, Oprah & Friends, Martha Stewart Living Today, ABC, NBC, CBS, CW11, HGTV, DIY Network, LiveWell Network, KnowMoreTV, Better Homes & Gardens, Ladies' Home Journal, Woman's Day, Family Circle, USA Today, GQ, InStyle, All You, Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, Healthy UK, American Way, numerous trade and travel publications, and NPR.

He leads workshops and speaks internationally while maintaining a private practice working with clients ranging from Fortune 100 companies, trade associations, and non-profits to CEOs, award-winning filmmakers, and authors, as well as overwhelmed parents everywhere. 

In 2013, Andrew founded Unstuff U®, the world's first completely virtual personal organization training center, offering classes, workshops, and other online resources for businesses and individuals. 

Andrew is a member of the Experts Collective and serves on the faculty of the New York Open Center in New York City. He speaks frequently on the intersection of spirituality and organization at places including Omega Institute, San Francisco Zen Center, Tassajara, All Saints Church, JCC Manhattan, and the Center for Spiritual Enlightenment, among others.

Previously, Andrew was an award-winning playwright, actor, producer, and director and the former Artistic Director of Alice B. Theater (Seattle), DC Arts Center (Washington, DC), and Shuttle Theater Company (New York). He is a contributing author to Yes Is the Answer: (And Other Prog-Rock Tales).

Andrew lives by his motto: More Love, Less Stuff!® 

Find him on the web at andrewmellen.com.

To Those Who Are Addicted to Being Superheroes

To my fellow SUPERHERO friends and family:

I wanted to share some of my morning thoughts and hopefully offer some insights and/or support for you and all of us SUPERHEROES that have been BEING DRIVEN for so long that we have been ignoring, and even doing damage to, the rest of our lives, friendships, family & kids, and ourselves.

You do NOT have to do it all yourself... but you know that already. 

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Xav Dubois is CEO of evox. "Our company, evox, is very much engaged in the inquiry that I've been in for my entire life: 'How do we make the planet and its people happier, more joyful, satisfied, and peaceful?' We're using Video Content, Conscious Commerce, and a Global Community to help bring about a world that honors all and supports monetary and social systems that are honest, fair, and just for everyone! Our Television Network, evoxTelevision.com, supports this by showing content that empowers, educates, and inspires while evoxMarketplace.com supports people and vendors who are striving to lead healthier, happier, and more sustainable lives. We're proud to be part of the process and we truly appreciate YOU for being with us on this journey. We look forward to hearing from you and the many benefits we hope you reap by being a part of the evox Community."

Doing Battle With the Green-Eyed Monster

It isn’t the prettiest aspect of your personality, but there it is:  jealousy.

Ick. How very seventh-grade of you. But all of us, no matter how far beyond seventh grade we’ve gotten, feel jealous sometimes.

And here’s a news flash: jealousy is a gift.

Jealousy is your gut’s way of telling you that first of all, whatever it is, you want some. And moreover, you believe that you could have it. After all, you are never jealous of those who have things you don’t want.

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Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, teacher, and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library)

She is the creator of www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com and www.TheOrganizedEntrepreneurCompany.com, both organizations dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals.

Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, Bennett offers her revolutionary online workshops to overwhelmed procrastinators, frustrated overachievers, and recovering perfectionists everywhere.

Don't Be Afraid to Get a C

Some years ago I was suffering from some fairly extreme anxiety.

One of the ways the anxiety manifested was that I felt like I was being constantly graded.

During every meal I cooked, every parallel-parking job, every audition, every everything, I felt like someone, somewhere, was monitoring my every move and keeping track in a big notebook about how well or, more often, how poorly I was executing my life.

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Samantha Bennett's picture

Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, teacher, and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library)

She is the creator of www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com and www.TheOrganizedEntrepreneurCompany.com, both organizations dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals.

Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, Bennett offers her revolutionary online workshops to overwhelmed procrastinators, frustrated overachievers, and recovering perfectionists everywhere.

As You Age, You Do Not Become a Lesser Version of Who You Used to Be

When I talk of my experiences working at the makeup counter, when women would come to me, desperate for some relief from the pain of feeling like they were losing their value, as though I were their last hope to have any chance at happiness - well, I am sometimes met with blank stares, as though the person wants to say "uh, isn't it just lipstick you were selling?"

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Katie Leathers is beauty connoisseur and feminine empowerment coach.  She is the beauty, brawn, and brains behind Beauty for All Colors, a business that helps women feel comfortable and confident with their own unique beauty.  She offers coaching on self image, makeup lessons, and practical advice on how to get comfortable shopping for and experimenting with makeup.  Katie has experienced her own shame around her relationship with her beauty and her body, and she helps women step into their feminine power by helping them connect with their inner and outer beauty.  When she isn't coaching, teaching, writing, or playing with makeup, you can find her sipping on lattes, running, traveling, dancing, or simply spending time with those she loves.

To contact Katie, email beauty.for.all.colors@gmail.com.

What is Owning Our Worth REALLY Worth?

“She looks like a million bucks.”

What does this statement really mean?  To me, it comes down to a woman who looks like she owns her worth.  I don’t believe that a woman’s individual worth can be calculated in dollars - but most people would probably agree that a million dollars is high in value.  So, if we think a woman looks like she’s a million bucks – it’s probably because we perceive that the woman owns her value.

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Katie Leathers's picture

Katie Leathers is beauty connoisseur and feminine empowerment coach.  She is the beauty, brawn, and brains behind Beauty for All Colors, a business that helps women feel comfortable and confident with their own unique beauty.  She offers coaching on self image, makeup lessons, and practical advice on how to get comfortable shopping for and experimenting with makeup.  Katie has experienced her own shame around her relationship with her beauty and her body, and she helps women step into their feminine power by helping them connect with their inner and outer beauty.  When she isn't coaching, teaching, writing, or playing with makeup, you can find her sipping on lattes, running, traveling, dancing, or simply spending time with those she loves.

To contact Katie, email beauty.for.all.colors@gmail.com.

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Unhappy girls looking at herself in hand mirror.
09/22/2017
She is loud and will be heard. She is so abusive, yet I listen and hang on her every word. She reminds me of my insecurities. She tells me I’m unloved, unacceptable, lazy, worthless.... read more
man in red jacket looking across field in fog
11/16/2015
Some labels are useful. It’s good to know what the bottler considers a serving when buying juice. A label that offers instructions is very helpful, particularly when trying to repair a flat... read more
kids in capes dressed as superheroes
09/30/2015
To my fellow SUPERHERO friends and family: I wanted to share some of my morning thoughts and hopefully offer some insights and/or support for you and all of us SUPERHEROES that have been BEING... read more
woman on green background with fingers around her eyes
09/28/2015
It isn’t the prettiest aspect of your personality, but there it is:  jealousy. Ick. How very seventh-grade of you. But all of us, no matter how far beyond seventh grade we’ve gotten, feel... read more
several versions of the letter C
08/10/2015
Some years ago I was suffering from some fairly extreme anxiety. One of the ways the anxiety manifested was that I felt like I was being constantly graded. During every meal I cooked, every... read more
red lipstick and cap
07/20/2015
When I talk of my experiences working at the makeup counter, when women would come to me, desperate for some relief from the pain of feeling like they were losing their value, as though I ... read more
part of woman's face reflected in mirror
05/16/2015
“She looks like a million bucks.” What does this statement really mean?  To me, it comes down to a woman who looks like she owns her worth.  I don’t believe that a woman’s individual... read more
Unhappy girls looking at herself in hand mirror.
09/22/2017
She is loud and will be heard. She is so abusive, yet I listen and hang on her every word. She reminds me of my insecurities. She tells me I’m unloved, unacceptable, lazy, worthless.... read more
man in red jacket looking across field in fog
11/16/2015
Some labels are useful. It’s good to know what the bottler considers a serving when buying juice. A label that offers instructions is very helpful, particularly when trying to repair a flat... read more
kids in capes dressed as superheroes
09/30/2015
To my fellow SUPERHERO friends and family: I wanted to share some of my morning thoughts and hopefully offer some insights and/or support for you and all of us SUPERHEROES that have been BEING... read more
woman on green background with fingers around her eyes
09/28/2015
It isn’t the prettiest aspect of your personality, but there it is:  jealousy. Ick. How very seventh-grade of you. But all of us, no matter how far beyond seventh grade we’ve gotten, feel... read more
several versions of the letter C
08/10/2015
Some years ago I was suffering from some fairly extreme anxiety. One of the ways the anxiety manifested was that I felt like I was being constantly graded. During every meal I cooked, every... read more
red lipstick and cap
07/20/2015
When I talk of my experiences working at the makeup counter, when women would come to me, desperate for some relief from the pain of feeling like they were losing their value, as though I ... read more
part of woman's face reflected in mirror
05/16/2015
“She looks like a million bucks.” What does this statement really mean?  To me, it comes down to a woman who looks like she owns her worth.  I don’t believe that a woman’s individual... read more