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Why Being Right Doesn’t Always Mean Being Happy

Most people would rather be right than happy.

We all have theories about the world and then unconsciously act in ways that confirm the theories, even if it makes us miserable.

Jessica, a new client, brought me a three-inch stack of email correspondence from her two business associates saying she needed protection from them. She had funded a project and they weren’t giving her the “deliverables”. She wanted me to mediate.

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Elizabeth B. Crook is CEO of Orchard Advisors. For over twenty years, she has worked with CEO's and entrepreneurs to think and act strategically to grow their companies' bottom line and have more overall satisfaction. She has a gift for making sense of complex situations and mapping them so creative and practical approaches emerge. Clients speak of her insight, skill, authenticity, and willingness to ask the hard questions in a gentle way. 

She is also the bestselling author of Live Large: The Achiever’s Guide to What’s Next. Recent media features include ForbesFast CompanyDaily WorthPBS Next AvenueThrive Global, Conscious Company, and BetterBook Club.

A mother, grandmother, and ardent hiker, she lives on Music Row in Nashville. 

Make Your Job Juicier in 4 Easy Steps

Are there days you leave your office feeling like a wet T- shirt just out of the washer: heavy and useless? 

Would you like more days when you feel like a freshly ironed shirt?

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Elizabeth B. Crook's picture

Elizabeth B. Crook is CEO of Orchard Advisors. For over twenty years, she has worked with CEO's and entrepreneurs to think and act strategically to grow their companies' bottom line and have more overall satisfaction. She has a gift for making sense of complex situations and mapping them so creative and practical approaches emerge. Clients speak of her insight, skill, authenticity, and willingness to ask the hard questions in a gentle way. 

She is also the bestselling author of Live Large: The Achiever’s Guide to What’s Next. Recent media features include ForbesFast CompanyDaily WorthPBS Next AvenueThrive Global, Conscious Company, and BetterBook Club.

A mother, grandmother, and ardent hiker, she lives on Music Row in Nashville. 

Four Great Gratitude Strategies

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This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Based at the University of California, Berkeley, the GGSC is unique in its commitment to both science and practice: Not only do we sponsor groundbreaking scientific research into social and emotional well-being, we help people apply this research to their personal and professional lives. Since 2001, we have been at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life. And we have been without peer in our award-winning efforts to translate and disseminate this science to the public.

Mindful Monday: Happiness is the Path

“There is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.”  ~the Buddha

How much of your life are you deferring to a perfect future day?

The Buddha reminds us that every step, every breath, every moment IS happiness not the path TOWARDS happiness.

As we navigate this crazy busy world we’ve constructed around ourselves, how much more do we need to be happy?

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Andrew Mellen's picture

Andrew Mellen is an organizational expert, public speaker, and the #1 best-selling author of Unstuff Your Life!

Andrew has helped tens of thousands of people worldwide to declutter and simplify their lives while regaining time for the things that matter.

A sought-after authority on organizing and productivity, Andrew's addressed audiences from The Great British Business Show to TEDx. 

Corporate clients include American Express, Genentech, NetApp, Time, Inc., and the US Depts. of Education and Homeland Security.

The media has dubbed Andrew “The Most Organized Man in America.” He writes a featured column called “Ask The Organizer” in Real Simple. In addition, he has written for and/or appeared in: The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, Oprah Magazine, America Now, The Lisa Oz Show, The Nate Berkus Show, Oprah & Friends, Martha Stewart Living Today, ABC, NBC, CBS, CW11, HGTV, DIY Network, LiveWell Network, KnowMoreTV, Better Homes & Gardens, Ladies' Home Journal, Woman's Day, Family Circle, USA Today, GQ, InStyle, All You, Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, Healthy UK, American Way, numerous trade and travel publications, and NPR.

He leads workshops and speaks internationally while maintaining a private practice working with clients ranging from Fortune 100 companies, trade associations, and non-profits to CEOs, award-winning filmmakers, and authors, as well as overwhelmed parents everywhere. 

In 2013, Andrew founded Unstuff U®, the world's first completely virtual personal organization training center, offering classes, workshops, and other online resources for businesses and individuals. 

Andrew is a member of the Experts Collective and serves on the faculty of the New York Open Center in New York City. He speaks frequently on the intersection of spirituality and organization at places including Omega Institute, San Francisco Zen Center, Tassajara, All Saints Church, JCC Manhattan, and the Center for Spiritual Enlightenment, among others.

Previously, Andrew was an award-winning playwright, actor, producer, and director and the former Artistic Director of Alice B. Theater (Seattle), DC Arts Center (Washington, DC), and Shuttle Theater Company (New York). He is a contributing author to Yes Is the Answer: (And Other Prog-Rock Tales).

Andrew lives by his motto: More Love, Less Stuff!® 

Find him on the web at andrewmellen.com.

How Spending Influences Happiness

According to a new study, money can buy well-being—when we buy things that reflect our personality.

by Kira M. Newman | Greater Good Science Center

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Greater Good Science Center's picture

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Based at the University of California, Berkeley, the GGSC is unique in its commitment to both science and practice: Not only do we sponsor groundbreaking scientific research into social and emotional well-being, we help people apply this research to their personal and professional lives. Since 2001, we have been at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life. And we have been without peer in our award-winning efforts to translate and disseminate this science to the public.

What the Aztecs Can Teach Us About Happiness and the Good Life

In the spring semester of the school year, I teach a class called ‘Happiness’. It’s always packed with students because, like most people, they want to learn the secret to feeling fulfilled.

‘How many of you want to be happy in life?’ I ask.

Everyone raises a hand. Always. ‘How many of you are planning to have children?’ Almost everyone raises their hand again.

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Aeon is a digital magazine of ideas and culture. Since September 2012 they have been publishing some of the most profound and provocative thinking on the web. They ask the big questions and find the freshest, most original answers, provided by leading thinkers on science, philosophy, society, and the arts. Aeon was founded in London by Paul and Brigid Hains. It now has offices in London, Melbourne, and New York. Aeon is a not-for-profit and operated by Aeon Media Group Ltd., committed to big ideas, serious enquiry, and a humane worldview. That’s it.

A Discussion With Werner Erhard

The film "Transformation: The Life and Legacy of Werner Erhard" was screened at the University of Pennsylvania's Bioethics Film Festival in April 2016.

Following the screening, Werner Erhard--founder of Erhard Seminars Training (est)--discussed the film with Penn professor Jonathan Moreno.

This is the full version of their discussion.

 

 

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Dr. Laura Basha is an organizational psychologist, writer, and artist, and along with organizational transformation, consulting, and executive coaching, she offers her skills as a life coach and educator, specializing in personal transformation and creative self-expression. For over thirty years she has worked with thousands of international clientele, using a principle-based paradigm of health and empowerment, catalyzing an awakening in people to their authentic self-expression, creativity, and power. She has taught her work in private practice as well as community, clinical, academic, professional, public, and corporate settings. Find more of Dr. Laura Basha's teachings, videos, artwork, and writings at White Bird Rising.

Which Feels Better, Forgiveness or Revenge?

by Kira M. Newman | Greater Good Science Center

A new study compares different responses to bullying—and finds that forgiveness may have to wait.

Nearly one in four teenagers is bullied every year. Our choice to forgive bullies—as teens or, later, as adults—is intensely personal, not one that any scientific study can answer for us.

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Greater Good Science Center's picture

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Based at the University of California, Berkeley, the GGSC is unique in its commitment to both science and practice: Not only do we sponsor groundbreaking scientific research into social and emotional well-being, we help people apply this research to their personal and professional lives. Since 2001, we have been at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life. And we have been without peer in our award-winning efforts to translate and disseminate this science to the public.

Are the Rich More Lonely?

Two new studies disagree about the link between income and social connections. 

Emiliana Simon-Thomas takes a closer look.  

Can money buy happiness?

One way to explore this question is to ask whether money buys the constituents of happiness—and there’s no better-researched or more powerful constituent than social connections.

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About The Author

Greater Good Science Center's picture

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Based at the University of California, Berkeley, the GGSC is unique in its commitment to both science and practice: Not only do we sponsor groundbreaking scientific research into social and emotional well-being, we help people apply this research to their personal and professional lives. Since 2001, we have been at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life. And we have been without peer in our award-winning efforts to translate and disseminate this science to the public.

5 Science-Backed Strategies for More Happiness

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About The Author

Greater Good Science Center's picture

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

Based at the University of California, Berkeley, the GGSC is unique in its commitment to both science and practice: Not only do we sponsor groundbreaking scientific research into social and emotional well-being, we help people apply this research to their personal and professional lives. Since 2001, we have been at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life. And we have been without peer in our award-winning efforts to translate and disseminate this science to the public.

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06/01/2018
Why Being Right Doesn’t Always Mean Being Happy Most people would rather be right than happy. We all have theories about the world and then unconsciously act in ways that confirm the theories,... read more
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05/14/2018
Are there days you leave your office feeling like a wet T- shirt just out of the washer: heavy and useless?  Would you like more days when you feel like a freshly ironed shirt? Find What’s... read more
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by Juliana Breines | Greater Good Science Center Giving Thanks Over the past two decades, much of the research on happiness can be boiled down to one main prescription: give thanks. Across... read more
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“There is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.”  ~the Buddha How much of your life are you deferring to a perfect future day? The Buddha reminds us that every step, every... read more
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02/12/2017
According to a new study, money can buy well-being—when we buy things that reflect our personality. by Kira M. Newman | Greater Good Science Center ​Six years ago, a landmark study ... read more
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In the spring semester of the school year, I teach a class called ‘Happiness’. It’s always packed with students because, like most people, they want to learn the secret to feeling fulfilled. ‘... read more
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The film "Transformation: The Life and Legacy of Werner Erhard" was screened at the University of Pennsylvania's Bioethics Film Festival in April 2016. Following the screening, Werner Erhard--... read more
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10/10/2016
by Kira M. Newman | Greater Good Science Center A new study compares different responses to bullying—and finds that forgiveness may have to wait. Nearly one in four teenagers is... read more
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09/25/2016
Two new studies disagree about the link between income and social connections.  Emiliana Simon-Thomas takes a closer look.   Can money buy happiness? One way to explore... read more

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Woman and man sitting in cafe upset and angry.
06/01/2018
Why Being Right Doesn’t Always Mean Being Happy Most people would rather be right than happy. We all have theories about the world and then unconsciously act in ways that confirm the theories,... read more
Co-workers laughing around a table with work
05/14/2018
Are there days you leave your office feeling like a wet T- shirt just out of the washer: heavy and useless?  Would you like more days when you feel like a freshly ironed shirt? Find What’s... read more
Thank you card attached to metaphysical gift.
11/22/2017
by Juliana Breines | Greater Good Science Center Giving Thanks Over the past two decades, much of the research on happiness can be boiled down to one main prescription: give thanks. Across... read more
A mulch path through sunlit green woods
08/21/2017
“There is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.”  ~the Buddha How much of your life are you deferring to a perfect future day? The Buddha reminds us that every step, every... read more
Book titled HAPPY held up in front of couple in library.
02/12/2017
According to a new study, money can buy well-being—when we buy things that reflect our personality. by Kira M. Newman | Greater Good Science Center ​Six years ago, a landmark study ... read more
Chichen Itza temple with sun spots on cloudy day.
12/07/2016
In the spring semester of the school year, I teach a class called ‘Happiness’. It’s always packed with students because, like most people, they want to learn the secret to feeling fulfilled. ‘... read more
Werner Erhard and a quote about happiness
11/08/2016
The film "Transformation: The Life and Legacy of Werner Erhard" was screened at the University of Pennsylvania's Bioethics Film Festival in April 2016. Following the screening, Werner Erhard--... read more
Side by side posters of man as devil and angel.
10/10/2016
by Kira M. Newman | Greater Good Science Center A new study compares different responses to bullying—and finds that forgiveness may have to wait. Nearly one in four teenagers is... read more
Ceramic piggy bank shaped like pug dog with dollar signs and cigar.
09/25/2016
Two new studies disagree about the link between income and social connections.  Emiliana Simon-Thomas takes a closer look.   Can money buy happiness? One way to explore... read more

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