Over and over again, as I navigate my circles of peers and friends my age, it amazes me how often I've heard the phrases:
"I don't have a mentor."
"How do you get a mentor?"
I find it paralyzing and sad.
We all have moments of fog where we feel we have no direction and horizon as to where we are, where we are going, and how we get there. Could our pride or lack of access be overlooking the possibility and potential of having and getting mentors?
Good news, plenty of willing people want to help.
That's what I've learned. I believe in the superpower of these wise folks. A mentor is a selfless person sharing timeless life principles. They are discipline and praise to our ideas and passions. It's a helpful voice investing their time, energy, and even resources so we can experience our professional and personal path in fresh, relevant, and different ways. They help us re-direct and disrupt new and long-held assumptions.
Ask someone you respect, imagine how lucky you can be and influential their presence can be in your life.
I attribute a big part of my professional and personal development in the past five years to the incredible joy and perspective of mentors, all of them. They are business people, spiritual people, political people who are able to pass on the blessings and sorrows of life and legacy to you independent of everyone else that knows you with built-in perceptions. Google less, and find comfort in the sympathy and empathy of these tested voices of personal and professional transformation. You will hear about mistakes, reflections, regrets, highs, and lows that can inform you to take better risks and navigate the uncertainty and chaos of life better and more often, without shaking your constitution.
Have the courage to ask. I did. Groups such as www.score.org can be a start. Your mentors will learn from you, you from them, and eventually you will mentor others as well. It's a fellowship that can be more common and perhaps more needed than ever if we allow it to be. I feel lucky to have them. And, don't pay to get one. This trend of paid mentorships is off — it need not be commercialized!
I'd be amiss if I don't thank and express my gratitude and love to my all my mentors particularly Norm Brodsky, Gene Ruffin, Paul Kerzner, and Donna Schaper for being agents of personal and professional wizardry in my life.
Discover your essence.
What matters, really?
What do you belong doing right now?
What were you born to do?